Superchick and Relationships

'All princes start as frogs
All gentleman as dogs
Just wait till it's plain to see
What we're growing up to be..
Cause some frogs will still be frogs
Some dogs will still be dogs
But some boys can become men
Just don't kiss us till then..'   ~Superchic[k].

Haha, as cheesy as it is, I love it. My friends introduced me to this band, their lyrics are like a modern bible, move over street version.

In my youth group once when I was about fifteen or sixteen, we were asked yes or no questions and we were to respond by putting our hands up for yes. One of the questions were; 'Do you think you have to want your present girlfriend/boyfriend to be your future wife/husband?'. I got laughed at for being the only one in the room with my hand up, as if it were some absurd idea to be looking for a husband instead a short term boyfriend. The fact this was in a church youth group is mind blowing to me.

To me, if I'm investing my time in a relationship I can't visualise going anywhere, only to the next day, then thats stupid, (IMO). These time waster relationships arn't healthy, and you could argue that God is within them, but I don't see how it is possible for God to be the centre of a relationship that he has not planned the two people involved to be together for the rest of their lives. There's also the argument of 'learning from mistakes to make you ready for your future husband/wife'. The key word is mistakes and not learning. God doesn't place mistakes for us to take in our lives to learn from, he uses the mistakes we make for our better when we bring them to the foot of the cross.

Also, if we're investing time in an aimless relationship, what about the relationship God wants us to be in? Where does this come into place amongst the short and time filler relationships?

Sorry, I sound a bit angry, I just can't commend how people go through their bibles highlighting the parts they think is good for them, then ignoring the rest. Apparantly, marriage doesn't mean to put a ring on someones finger, it means to be subconsciously married, cos the bible is oh so out of date. Forget that, the word stands true yesterday today and forever.

Anyway, going back to the song at the beginning, what was the main point of this blog, don't rush into things. We all start out very silly people, growing up, everyday we learn about ourselves, make mistakes and grow. We should be waiting for relationships till we are mature in ourselves and God, otherwise, it isn't much of a relationship at all. I'm not saying we don't learn from each other, but I am saying we are moulded and changed every day into the person God wants us to be when we let him, so; Just wait till it's plain to see, what we're growing up to be.